One day I ran into a guy I went to school with, Fiifi. We had lost contact after school so he was excited to see me. He had feelings for me when we were in school but nothing came out of it. We exchanged contacts that day and started a new friendship. I was recovering from a breakup by then and Fiifi’s presence in my life helped the healing process.
On the eve of his birthday, he took me out on a date. We had a good time and at the end of the night, he said, “Baaba, you know I’ve always liked you and I’m happy whenever I spend time with you. I want to be more than your friend. I want to build a relationship with you, hoping to get married to you someday. What do you say?” I had fallen in love with him so I said yes. He screamed excitedly, “This is the best birthday ever.”
We did n’t date for long until we decided to involve our families. We were both raised by single maters
so we wanted to get their blessing first before effects got serious. My mama is the kind of person who would only accept someone grounded on their finances. She’d look at the person completely and look at the bulge of his reverse fund to determine if their appearance sings plutocrat. That’s the only way she’d authorize of any man I bring home. Fortunately for me, Fiifi dresses well so when she met him, she accepted him. After he met my mum he also introduced me to his mama . She was veritably welcoming.
After a time of being together, we started planning for the marriage form. I told Fiifi that I would take care of the traditional marriage when it comes to the event and monuments. Fiifi’s mama also offered to take care of the marriage event. Ever, I felt the need to make it look like my mama also contributed plutocrat to the form. So, I told my hubby that she contributed toward the food for the traditional marriage.
We got wedded and went on a honeymoon. While we were down on our honeymoon, my mama called me. I allowed
she wanted to compliment us so I put the call on a loudspeaker while I heeded with my hubby. My mum said, “ I’m calling to tell you that you owe me plutocrat. I bought fish to prepare your engagement food, and I rented plates to serve the guests. shoot me the plutocrat so that I can pay off the people. ” I was so embarrassed that my mama could n’t stay for me to get home before she starts asking me for plutocrat. It was indeed more disturbing that my hubby had to hear that.
My mama always finds a way to abuse plutocrat out of me. It is n’t that I do n’t take care of her. I do. I shoot her plutocrat for keep every month. I pay her sanitarium bills, I help her pay her rent, and if she needs anything I buy it for her. I’ve two siblings I also support financially. Yet my mama is noway satisfied.
My hubby’s mama is the contrary of my mama . She likes to give than take from us. I flash back when we returned from our honeymoon, my mama – in- law brought us food. She said, “ I know you would be too tired to cook tonight so I brought you commodity. ” It was a generous gesture that warmed my heart. My mama did n’t suppose of anything like that. rather, she got angry when she heard that my hubby’s mute visited us. She said we invited the woman over and left her out. It came a problem we had to resolve.
I’m not trying to compare my mum with my hubby’s mum but see what happed next. A many months into the marriage I got pregnant. My mum’s first response was, “ I’ll use this baby as an occasion to make plutocrat out of them. Both of them are busy people. I’ll have to take care of the baby when they go to work and they will pay me. This is good news. ”
I got angry when I heard her plot so I told my hubby about it. We decided not to let her babysit the child. Fiifi’s mama was the bone
we trusted to come around and help with the baby. My mama got angry when we did that and it came another issue we had to resolve.
Whenever my mama – in- law visited us she brought us foodstuff. No bone
asked her or paid her to do it. She’s just a thoughtful person. When my mama set up out she said, “ Give me plutocrat to buy you foodstuff the coming time I ’m visiting. That way your in- laws will suppose that I ’m also helping out. ” I had to shoot her the plutocrat before she could get us foodstuff.
I was home for my motherliness leave when she called me to ask for her rent plutocrat. I told her I could n’t go to help. She complained plaintively trying to make it look like I ’m neglecting her because I ’m wedded. I had to scrap whatever I had in mind and shoot her the plutocrat. Two months after that, my hubby came home from work with complaints. supposedly, my mama was going around telling people that I neglected her since I got married. Again, she was telling people that the whole marriage was funded by me and my hubby made no donation to the marriage. My hubby told me, “ Your mama is telling everyone that you ’re the bone
who takes care of me. ”
I did n’t misdoubt what my hubby said. My mama is able of saying further than what my hubby said. I ’d wanted to defy her but my hubby said, “ There’s no need to do that. Just let it go. ” I did n’t let it go. I rushed to ask my mama and she denied it. She got so angry she went to my hubby’s plant to defy him. Fortunately for us, my hubby was n’t in the office the day she went there. From there, she went to my in- law’s house to bring curses on her.
My hubby said, “ I told you not to defy her so why did you do it? You see what you ’ve caused? ” I had no answer for him. We latterly had to sit to resolve the problem amicably.
It did n’t stop there. Every day new problems from my mama . At some point, my mama – in- law got tired and told me, “ If your mama does n’t support your marriage also disjoin my son. We haven’t had a moment of peace in this family after your marriage. ” Out of frustration, I answered her, “ Come for the marriage instrument and take the lead to the court. I’ll meet you there. ” She said I ’ve disrespected her. It turned into a huge conflict between us. One marriage that I entered into, every day we’re settling issues. No time to indeed catch my breath.
My aunt visited me. In discussion, she revealed that my mum had pronounced curses on me. According to her, my mum said when she dies I should n’t attend her burial. My aunt contended with me to go and apologize to my mum. I do n’t know what I did but I went to supplicate my mama for remission.
effects came peaceful until lately everything started falling piecemeal again.
There’s this lady who’s a friend to my youngish family and my hubby. She called my hubby and asked him to talk to me. When I took the phone she said, “ I’m calling to advise you to be careful about your family. She has told me terrible effects about you and your marriage. Keep her as far as you can. She has no good intentions. ”
I pressed for further details and she told me, “ Your mama wishes for your marriage to fail so that you’ll return home to her. Your family also said you’ll fall sick and spend all your plutocrat buying medicines each because you ’ve neglected them since you got married. ”
I did n’t misdoubt what the girl told me. Everything she said had the DNA of effects my mama and family would say. I have n’t wronged them in any way for them to harbor similar ill passions toward me. I got wedded and have someone I ’m living my life with, hence the abomination.
There’s no senior person in our family I have n’t reported my mama to. They ’ve sat on our issues on several different occasions but nothing changed. They’re now tired and do n’t want to engage her again. I ’m also tired. I want her to leave me alone to enjoy my marriage. I need peace in my home but I do n’t know what differently to do to get these two women off my reverse.